Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Hurry up already!

I just realized that this weekend is Halloween already!! And Jonathan's birthday of course<3 That means that next week Jon graduates from MOS and joins the fleet!! Woohoo!! It feels like it has been forever. After this week I have 7 weeks of classes left. 1 of which I have off for Thanksgiving!!! The first 8 weeks of the semester flew by. I hope the last 7 do the same. Only 66 days left until Jon and I are married!! Then I'll be moving down to NC!!!! I cannot express how incredibly excited I am! Not only do I get to be in my favorite state but I get to be married to the most incredible man and see him more than once every couple months!! (until he deploys anyways) Pray that time flies by for me. I can already see myself not coming back for the last 2 weeks of classes after Thanksgiving break haha.

Semper Fi<3

Friday, October 23, 2009

Premarital counseling?

Our church requires us to have premarital counseling before were allowed to get married there. Because Jon is in North Carolina and I am in Vermont we can't exactly do that. SOOOO instead we were both sent a book to read. It's called The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I'll admit, I was nervous. I didn't know what book was coming my way. Luckily I found the book incredibly good and so did Jon.

By love languages he means the way we express that we love our significant other and how we feel loved. Everyone is at least one of the five. They are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. Jon and I knew right off the bat that he was physical touch. Most guys are. He can't go five minutes without holding my hand to having his arm around me. Which I don't mind at all considering one of my 3, yes 3, is physical touch as well.

As I was reading I couldn't figure out which one I was. When I took the assessment in the back I 3 way tied with words of affirmation, quality time, and physical touch. One is supposed to dominate over the other but I can't see myself feeling completely loved without any one of them. Luckily physical touch and words of affirmation involve quality time so its a win win, win.

Before reading this book I never thought about arguing or fighting like this. The reason most people argue in a marriage is because they are not speaking the other ones love language. It might sound like a bunch of hoo ha but really its incredible. If your husband or wife feels loved when you tell them how much you love them or how great she is, if you stop doing that then they wont feel loved. If they he feels loved when you put your hand on his shoulder when you walk by or run up and hug him when he gets home, and you stop doing that, then he wont feel loved. If a person doesn't feel loved then they start to pull away. Hence, a lot of cheating and fighting in marriages.

He also says that the "in love" feeling wears off. Once it does love becomes your choice which makes it even better. When you are choosing to love someone it's more intense and heartfelt then if you just feel connected for a while. Jon and I still believe we're soul mates but we also chose to love one another. We've already made it past the "in love" phase and have moved on to the incredible love we have today because since he joined the marines we had to chose to love one another. I never thought about it that way but I love thinking that he chose me<3

I don't know if I explained it as well as he did but really it's an eye opening book. Both Jon and I enjoyed reading it and figuring out what made us feel loved so that we could stay in this love forever. Lucky for us we already do everything that makes us feel loved. For the future in case we forget though it will always be in the back of our minds.

I recommend reading it, even if there isn't trouble in paradise. It will most likely prevent it.
Happy readings!

Semper Fi<3

Thursday, October 15, 2009


Jon found out today where we will be living for the next 3 years.


Jon got stationed at Lejune so I will be moving with him soon!! :-)
That's all for now. 78 days until I'm Mrs. Sykes<3

Semper Fi<3

Wednesday, October 14, 2009


This weekend Jonathan and I decided we were going to write our own vows. I am soooo excited!! I know he is going to make me cry so my goal is to make him at least have 1 tear :-)
I'm not sure where to start or how long or anything like that but I'm starting them tonight, hopefully.

I got to spend an amazing 3 day weekend with the love of my life. What better time to write down my love for him.

Semper Fi<3

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

3 days left

It's been roughly 3 and 1/2 months since I have seen Jon. I know it's no deployment and we have been able to talk for most of it but I still am sooo excited that the torture is almost over. For now at least. All I can thinking about is seeing him in the airport for the first time in months. I haven't figured out how I am going to react yet. I suppose it's not something I can plan ahead for. Sometimes just thinking about it makes me weak and I feel as if I am going to faint. Other times I get really excited and smile for hours. This will be my first experience meeting him at the airport. You know, the movie scene where the hero comes home to his wife after being gone for what felt like eternity. They run into each others arms and he picks her up and swings her around while locked in what seems to be an everlasting kiss. Who ever says that only happens in movies has obviously never loved a Marine. When I saw Jonathan for the first time after boot camp I lost my breath and couldn't move. I just stood there staring at the guy who has been writing to me for 3 months. The guy who looked nothing like he did when he left me. The guys who I have always been and will always be completely in love with. Then his mom gave me a shove and that's all it took to have me running into his arms.

That day made me realize that no matter what we had to go through we were going to make it. When I got to see him for the first time I knew that I was never going to be able to be without him. I would rather share him with the Marines for a few years then not have him at all. So many people say that their significant other is their everything but I honestly mean it. He is my strength, he is my weakness, he is my love, and he is my anger. Jon is the reason I am who I am and the reason I have become a better person. I have never loved anyone else and I never will. I believe that there is that one other person you are supposed to be with, your soul mate. I know that we are meant to be together. The first time I saw him way back in high school I couldn't stop staring. It was like something was telling me that I needed him in my life but not just yet. Whatever that feeling was I am so glad it stuck around.

After all this rambling my point is that in 3 days I will finally be with my fiance. Scratch that. I feel as if the word fiance was made up for those people who stay engaged for years and years because they are scared of that commitment of forever. I don't need a ring or a piece of paper to know that Jonathan and I are married. January 2, 2010 it will be official but with or without that date Jonathan is my husband. He is my other half. He is the person I have already vowed to spend the rest of my life with because he is the only person who will ever make me feel so complete and so in love.

In 3 days I finally get to be truly happy again<3

Semper Fi<3

Monday, October 5, 2009

oh college....

I have 3 roommates. 1 of which is an immature, selfish, self-absorbed, spoiled, bratty, biooootchhhhhhh. Our room is 3 vs. 1. The only way we can get this girl out is by her saying she wants to leave. We don't know what to do. I have anxiety attacks just thinking about going into my room. When I do walk into my room I feel as if I'm walking into HER room. If you so much as look at her things she starts a fight. It's beyond ridiculous. I don't need this. I want to be in North Carolina with Jon :-(

4 more days until I see him!!! I pick him up at the airport midnight on Friday!! I cannot wait to be with him. He always makes me feel better no matter what the problem is. It's been wayyyy too long since we've been together. Life just isn't the same without him.

I just have to make it until December and then this awful roommate with be gone and I will be getting married to the most incredible man<3
Life is pretty damn good<3 (minus the roommate haha)

Semper Fi<3