Monday, March 8, 2010

Life. Choices. Plans.

My husband and I have been married for 2 months. We started dating October 19, 2007. We had our ups and downs. Our break ups were pretty rough but we always got back together because we are opposite magnets. We can't run away from each other we're just simply meant to be together. No one has ever made me feel complete like he does. Any problems we have we fix together and grow from them. I honestly feel like I have one of the few great men in the world as a husband. The only flaw he has is biting his nails constantly. That is it. I swear. He loves me unconditionally, thinks I am the most beautiful person he has ever seen, and isn't afraid to tell me his feelings. When I was younger and I dreamt of the perfect guy he is who I dreamt about. He towers over me which is the sexiest thing in the world. I love every inch of those 6 feet and 3 inches. He looks at me and makes me melt. He puts me before everything else in the world and I do the same. My husband is my life.

Jonathan asked me to marry him before he left for boot camp. I believe it was partially for a piece of mind for both of us since we planned on having a long engagement, at first. We were and still are madly in love. We chose to get married sooner because we wanted to be together. We could do the distance, it wasn't that. Remember I said we were opposite magnets? Well you all know how hard it is to pull magnets away from one another... We just want to be near one another, that is all either of us wants. I know deployment and distance is inevitable which is why I wanted to soak up as much time with him as possible. I love being his wife. I love waking up and seeing my husband every morning. I love ever choice we have ever made but this was my favorite choice.

We have plans. Plans for our future plans for each other and plans for ourselves. It wasn't until today that I realized the biggest difference between being married versus dating/engaged. We are married. That means we are our own family. Having children is the stereotypical family image. Well, having a spouse is having family too. This means we are first and our families are second. We discuss choices and plans with one another and the ideas of our parents are not as important any more. Granted I still value their opinions but I listen to my husband more now because what I do affects him directly. I knew getting married at 19 would cause challenges in my education. I know I will eventually finish my bachelors but I feel like I am wasting my time in classes when I don't really know what I want to major in. SO, I plan on getting my cosmetology certificate which will take me about a year while I figure out what I truly want to major in. This way I have a back up AND will be qualified to do two things after I finish my bachelors. I think this is a great plan. My husband thinks it is a great plan. I think it is something I will be good at and enjoy doing. My mom hates the idea and doesn't think I will ever finish my bachelors. I realized that would matter but I am married now and my husband trumps my mother. Strange, but I like it. Anyways, this is a long explanation for the fact that I love making plans with my husband for our future. Wether it is about children, education or EAS vs reenlistment. We lean on one another and do what is best for OUR life. My plans and his plans flow into OUR plan.

Semper Fi<3

1 comment:

  1. you couldn't of had worded it any better. i totally see eye to eye with you on this one, and in the end it's you and your husband :)


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