I have the worst communication skills ever. I never keep in contact with people. I don't know if it's because no one I've met is worth keeping in contact with or if I just really like being by myself a lot. I think it's a little of both. There are a select few that I really love hanging out with but I still don't talk or make plans as often as I should. It's just not me. I go all day just enjoying my time and by the time I realize that I could have called so and so and done something it's like 7 pm.
I thought at first that I was a loner. I love spending time with other people as long as they are people I get along with so maybe it's not that I am a loner. I can't really explain it though. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I come from a small town where there is hardly ever anything to do so I am so used to not doing anything? I have NO IDEA!!
The one good thing I get out of this is that I really learn who my friends are. The people who I can talk to and just pick up wherever we left off like the last time we talked was yesterday are who I really appreciate. They don't hold this against me and understand that I even stop talking to my family for periods of time just because it never crosses my mind until weeks go by.
Does this happen to anyone else or am I just extremely weird?
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I remember driving out to Raleigh with you and we had this conversation. I think that's why we are both ok with how our friendship works :) :)
ReplyDeleteI do remember that! I am glad it works. I wish I could change it though and be more normal but I swear I am missing a chromosome or something lol.
ReplyDeleteYou aren't the only one! I think it just becomes a habit when you are so use to spending so much time alone. Even in classes, I tend to sit alone. Just because i'm so use to it. A lot of the time I just don't know what to say to people. haha But I end up with little to no friends because of it.
ReplyDeleteI do that too. I always liked to sit alone at college unless I was friends with someone in the class. But I think you have a good point with being alone so often that it's almost habit. I wonder if there is a way to fix it though. A huge problem I almost always end up having is that I get annoyed with people easily. I lose a lot of "friends" because I get obsessed with one awful quality they have and I can't stand them anymore. There are people I have met and could never get sick of though so I know it's just a matter of who I meet. Maybe I'm just a creeper magnet? lol
ReplyDeleteI think being alone we just get ourselves into a routine and we just get so used to that certain routine that by the time we remember our friends exist, so much time has passed by.
ReplyDeletebtw thought i saw ur new car today and it had ny plates so i was following it but it wasnt u cuz the plate ontop said schnectady (sp?)
I don't know. I've done that before. I'm easily annoyed sometimes. Especially when it comes to table manners. lol But, for me i've always had a tough time trying to make friends with other girls. They either seem really bitchy or think i'm a bitch when the majority of the time it's just that I don't know what to say. It really sucks sometimes! haha
ReplyDeleteI think since we get so used to being alone we get ourselves into a certain routine and we get so used to it that when we remember our friends exist so much time has passed by.
ReplyDeleteOMG haha that is so creepy! I don't have state plates on my car yet I have a dealer temp plate and it will be a NC plate once I get it but I would have done the same thing!
ReplyDeleteAnd Lacey that is so true! That is usually what happens to me too. I think patience is really key with a lot of people. We just have to remember that everyone is different and first impressions aren't everything :-)
If only other people realized first impressions aren't everything because I always feel like I make a horrible one! haha
ReplyDeleteYou know what really helps with the whole first impression jitters? I pretend like I've met them before and just be super friendly and smile often. I realized that if you look around in a room full of people the ones not talking to anyone are the ones not smiling when you look at them either. Body language makes a huge difference but confidence is always helpful too!
ReplyDeleteI never thought of that before! If i'm alone somewhere, i'm usually not smiling. I'll have to try that next time i'm out somewhere. :)
ReplyDeleteYou are totally not alone!! I do the same thing. In fact, some days I don't even leave the house just because I don't feel like interacting with other people. I don't keep up with people like I should...and I treasure those friends who understand and that I can pick up right where I left off with.
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