My husband and I don't seem to be very good at this little thing called compromising. The problem is we are both incredibly stubborn. Why am I telling you all of this? Because it's making decisions for our future stressful and frustrating.
You all know that we have a baby on the way. This little detail has started to change my husband's mind about reenlisting. He doesn't want to be the dad who's always gone and I respect that. The problem now is that we are discussing our options once he gets out. We can't decide where we want to move. We really are 2 completely different people.
What I would consider a nice seasonal camp he would love to live in all year round. What I consider a village or town he looks at as a city. He would love to live where there is a ton of snow and preferably lake front since he is a big snowmobiler. I love snow but only on a mountain. I hate driving in it, shoveling it or walking in it.
Another issue? He doesn't want to live home and I would love to be close to family. His first choice is Casper Wyoming. Which is around 1,800 miles away from our home town. I think I have convinced him to at least stay in NY so it's not a bad drive home.
Has this happened to anyone? How do you come to a compromise when your personalities and tastes are so drastically different? How can we incorporate both of our needs without forcing one of us to live somewhere that will make us miserable?
HELPPPP!!!??!?!?! lol
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Totally normal newlywed stuff! Don't stress! Everything will fall in to place. Huge life altering decisions like that are tough!!! We are dealing with them too!
ReplyDeleteCan't wait to read more about this decision! My hubby and I will be facing this same decision in a few years and I am so curious how we will work it out, since we are from such different places across the country and he would like to live in the middle of nowhere, where I would prefer a nice town/city! :) Good luck!
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