This one's for the "Marine Girlfriends."

I put the title in quotes because there has been one girl in particular on the USMC gals site that I am a part of who has recently been overjoyed with the fact that her Marine might not ever deploy. While I can't exactly hate her for her enthusiasm on the idea I can loathe the way she talks about it. Her marine wants to deploy. He feels like he is missing out on not going and all she can say to that is that she doesn't understand why he is sad about not deploying. I don't know, maybe it's just my relationship with my fiance but I completely understand why any marine would be upset by not deploying. That is what they have worked so hard for, that is what they spend months and months training for, that is where the honor of being a marine comes from. If he does not deploy he knows that everything he has worked for has been for practically nothing. Yes he is still a marine and is still an amazing man I'm sure but it just upsets me that this girl seems completely non supportive of her boyfriend. I actually feel a little offended by it. As a marine girlfriend, fiance, and especially wife I believe that it is crucial that we stand by our men no matter what their decisions are. We don't question deployments we just accept them and do our best to get through them and get our men safely home knowing that we are still right where they left us. Many of us have been with our men long before the marines were even in the picture so we are that much more faithful. SEMPER FIDELIS does not just mean always faithful to our men, it means always faithful to our corps. Not just our men are faithful we have to be too. We have to take everything they get handed with our heads up and our hopes high because if we start to question why our man would want to go on deployment things start to crash. I mean can any of you think to actually have to ask the question to your marine "Why do you want to deploy?" I mean yes it's dangerous but IT"S THE MARINES! You aren't dating a civilian anymore. Suck it up and start being a supportive girlfriend and stop making us look bad. Oh and if you happen to read this because I'm sure you know who you are, stop posting how wonderful it is that he might not deploy. Yes you will get to have him to yourself more, but at what price? One less marine to protect your freedom.

I'm sure we would all love not to have to worry about whether our men are going to be safe overseas. I know I would be ecstatic not to have to worry about him but that's not the problem. I started out as a regular "civilian" fiance. Now I am my MARINE'S fiance. That is a totally different boat. I don't like the idea that he will have to deploy but then I think about why he is doing it. He is not only protecting our country but each of our men are protecting each of us. As it says in John 15:13 "Greater love has no one known, than he who lay down his life for his friends." I mean come on. Only the military girlfriends, fiances, and wives get to say that the man they love really would lay down his life for us. Yes it scares the shit out of me thinking about it but I know my marine is trained well and I have faith that he will come home safe. This blog started as me being extremely angry at this girl but really I can't be angry. I understand why she is so happy but I think she needs to be able to understand why she shouldn't be. If you were dating a lawyer would you keep him from going to court because you would miss him? What if he was a doctor, would you keep him from surgery because of a chance you might not be alright while he is gone? Exactly.


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